Her post sure got my mind a brewing. In this little space of mine, we have been all over the place. I have been trying to figure out what I even wanted out of this little corner of the cyber world. Why I was even here. Why I put in the effort when barely anyone reads or comments. Why I kept coming back for more.
Then I remembered the simplest answer I could come up with. For me. That's why I'm here. I'm here to remember these little moments in life. Soak them up. Go back and remember them again and again. There was a time and still some times where I would write for other people. What they wanted to hear. What they wanted to see.
Boy did I get it all wrong. There came a time when I took a long break. Evaluated what the hell I was doing. And then I came out knowing I wasn't here to write for other people to "hopefully" like it. Even though of course I still do hope people like it, that just wasn't my main purpose.
Which comes to my next point. I adore connecting with you all from all over the world. The moment I see someone commenting to me, our lives the same, a moment the same, a little piece of life experience shared...I jump for serious joy.
But I'll be completely honest, many days I feel like this blog is a simple failure. Many days I feel like I cannot even compare to the blogs out there. Many days I feel like everyone is making best friends and flying across the world to see each other and then....well the questions come flowing. I begin to second guess myself and then find myself never blogging because I don't feel "good enough" to do it.
Then I wake the heck up with a nice cup of coffee and realize, no, I may not be the best of bloggers or writers but I love doing it so dang much that nothing will stop me from doing it. I love connecting with you all at different levels. I love sharing my heart. And I love not being perfect. And quite frankly, it just makes me happy.
So I am going to keep on keeping on and try to write from the heart more often. Be me. The me how has many ups and many downs. Keeping it real around these parts.
HAPPY MONDAY (and thank you Lord for our Presidents. I love having this day off!)
22 comments:
Amazing post! In the last few months I've asked myself the same questions, especially "why do I blog when no one reads or comments?" I've since come to realize that I blog for ME...no one else, and most certainly not to get "blog popular." 10 years from now I can look back on my little blog and see what I was doing with my life...small tidbits and all.
I feel EXACTLY the same way!! I feel like that I don't fit in at times, and it seems like blogging has changed. It is no longer about documenting your life, but who is the most popular. I remember when there were no sponsors or giveaways. Now, giveaways are for super expensive items (not hating, but just an observation). I hate putting in effort, and getting no recognition. Sometimes I spend hours constructing a post. I then feel guilty, because I feel like I wasted my time (even though I am more about documenting my life and having those memories). I feel you on people becoming best friends and flying across country to meet. I can't help but say I'm jealous. I would love to do that
I also feel frustrated and discouraged with blogging... As if being real is not enough. I just feel like blogging is becoming a competition. I blog for me, but sometimes it is do hard to remember that is my reason.
Girl, don't worry, we all feel like this from time to time! Sticking true to who you are and writing for you is exactly what you should do. :) I take breaks too! It's only natural I think. PS-I'd love to meet your butt butt IRL! ;)
You're definitely not alone Molly! I'm pretty sure we've all felt like that at sometime or another, I know I have. Keep bloggin on what you love!
I think I could've written this exact post. Sometimes I wonder why I even have a blog to begin with... But then I think about how I love to look back on all of the random memories I've posted about, and then it doesn't matter how my blog compares with others, because I still love it. :)
And I definitely love yours!
I know exactly how you feel. I think like this probably once a month, and then I keep on keepin' on in the hopes that someone will find my little piece of the internet and enjoy what I am sharing with them. It can be hard at times, and I know that there is really nothing that I can say to make you feel better except to keep on going. You found one new friend :)
LC from theworldofellesee
You aren't alone Molly! I was a blogger that got LOADS of comments on each post, and now I'm back to feeling lucky to get a few a day. I have questioned about losing my luster on my blog, but in the same regard, as in life, blogs can bring drama and nasty comments and thus a change of the way I used to write, has caused the decrease in traffic. And you know what, I'm okay with that. As you said it, you have to blog for YOU and no one else! :)
Well I haven't flown across the world to meet any other bloggers, but I did meet my first blogfriend IRL a few weeks ago. It was someone I've connected with for probably a year now and we live in the same city- no excuses. It was pretty cool to make an actual FRIEND from blogging. I'm with you that sometimes it's just popularity, and the blogs that do those HUGE giveaways just act like they like a blog because they're all pitching in for this thing.
I still blog for me, but have hosted a small giveaway here and there as well. Blogging is still fun for me, and still a hobby of mine. I think the day it stops being fun would be the day I need to reevaluate.
Love your blog and your honesty, your sense of humor :)
Hey molly!
Just thought that I would inform you that I find your blog to be an inspiration! I love reading your blog because you talk about just anything you love!
I really liked your post today because it reminded me of something that I had forgotten in my blogging, that all the writing should be about what I love, not just what I think will bring viewers.
Thank You sooo much!
Sabra
collegecrazylife.blogspot.com
I am new to the blogging world and have been loving your blog.
When starting out in this big blog world it feels like being the new kid in school (excpet this school is the whole world..) It is always nice to hear how people have the same fears so you don't quite feel like the odd kid out. ha I can't wait to hear more about your adventures and starting writing about some of my own!
Stopping by from the link-up!
This post is great! I think we all go through this phase and forget why we are here in the first place.
I look fwd to reading more of your blog!
Stopping by from the link-up!
This post is great! I think we all go through this phase and forget why we are here in the first place.
I look fwd to reading more of your blog!
I just wanted to say that while I never, ever comment, because I'm still in college, unmarried and unblogging, so I tend to feel like people would judge my blog voyeurism, your blog is one of my favorites.
Even though you may not be a major blogger, I appreciate that. Your blog isn't cluttered with product reviews of things you were sent for free and you don't have constant giveaways of products that the shot of winning is slim to none (6000 entries!)
Your blog may be quieter than the blogs that support an income, but your blog is authentic. Your personality oozes through your words and you write about what you love. You love your husband, your dog, your family, your job, and it's obvious. Your pictures are candid and real. When you do have posts with posed pictures (i.e. wedding), you can feel the joy in those events.
I may sound like a creepy stalker now, I'm not I swear- I promise I don't live anywhere near you haha, but I just wanted you to know that clicking on your blog in my bookmarks folder and finding a new post from you makes my day.
Have a nice Monday!
DITTO CATY!!! ^^^
There's no possible way I can say it better than her. Molly, you're beautiful inside and OUT...and we all love you for you. Your blog is amazing.
I love this post. You're so real and down to earth, and it makes me happy to know that there ARE genuine bloggers like you out there.
xoxoxo!
Totally agree with Caty!!! I really enjoy your stories - they're funny, entertaining, and mostly, honest. I hope you have a wonderful Monday :)
I feel the same way a lot - but I have to remember that I blog for me. And, like you said, it's amazing to meet people like you! I love your blog, if it's any consolation :)
I honestly think you just took the words out of my mouth. I'd rather write for myself and have 14 readers than write about frivolous things that don't really hold much meaning to me.
Keep doing what you're doing!
xoxo
Hi! I found your blog via Becky. I'm new around here but excited to saddle up with my coffee while the babies play to read some of your posts! I think it's completely normal to feel like you do! I remember feeling the exact same way when I started blogging four years ago. I had four followers and two of them were my parents.
I think it's OK to write for others. Everyone always feels the need to defend themselves and say "I write for me" and obviously that's wonderful but it's OK to write for others. To sit down at the computer each night and think about how you can reach someone else.. touch someone else's life who may be going through the same motions as you.
Like you said- I love being able to look back and see what our family was up to a year ago. Two years ago. Hell, I forget my first baby's milestones all the time and I'm so glad I can just come back to the blog and look them up!!
Keep writing. You never know who you're inspiring! ;) I'm a new follower!
I just started to blog this month. I have read blogs for fun for a long time and finally decided to start writing. I feel like we are very much alike. I am such a new follower of yours but I look forward to reading more of your blog. Don't be discouraged. Your blog is awesome!
I also probably write for me far more than I should according to all the professional blogging experts. I did start my blog as a way for me to have a place to vent about all the things that cross my mind.
Like you, I do hope that people will still like it. I've been trying to find that happy balance for the past three years.
So, so true! It's like you read my thoughts. Was discussing this very thing yesterday.
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