So as a lot of you all know Jeff & I went on an Engagement Encounter this past weekend that lasted from Friday night until Sunday afternoon. The weekend was technology free and actually kind of rocked!
Even though this was a requirement for our church, I am so glad we went. Not going to lie I was pretty flipping nervous at first. Oh and good news... my roommate was normal, actually really nice and did not kidnap me. Score. The whole purpose of the weekend was to prepare us for marriage and as they say "A wedding is one day, a marriage is a lifetime." So we learned tools to help us have a good marriage and defeat those crazy 50% divorce rate stats. Booya.
A few {of many} things I learned....
Communication is the very most important thing in a relationship
{other than love, of course}
I swear I learned more things in the past weekend than I have like my whole life. Okay maybe thats an exaggeration but hearing real stories from one certain couple that had been married 49 years pretty much made my life. Get this, the lady {Polly} gave her husband {Pat} a love coupon book not too long ago & one coupon was for a hickie anywhere on the body. So great.
Jeff & I have opposite personalities but all the same values, goals & interests
We took those extra fun personality type "get to know yourself" quizzes and we scored totally opposite. Well in the aspect of things like "more reserved" more "authority" and all that jazz. I was kind of surprised but it was 500% on the money about how our personalities were. Pretty much Jeff needs patience & I need to stop being scared of change. haha. True dat.
My love language is Words of Affirmation & Physical Touch
We also watched part of the Five Love Languages video which I totally loved. It really is inspiring and very relatable if you ever get the urge to read the book or watch the video. It makes so much sense it's a little scary. My love tank is all sorts of full today! Funny thing was the couple who was speaking told us that it was really rare for a couple to ever have the same love language and what do you know....Jeff & I's were exactly the same.
Not having technology for a whole weekend was a blessing in disguise
It also felt "freeing". Nothing to worry about but each other. No e-mails to respond to, no lessons to plan, no nothing. You don't realize how much technology affects how you spend time with someone until it's not there. It was nice to not be sitting next to each other doing something on our phones, but rather just enjoying each others company distraction free. I would def. recommend it. Seriously though.
God is good. Really good.
And I'm pretty darn thankful to be a child of God. I thank him multiple times a day for all he has given me. I really feel blessed to be surrounded with so much love, and even from you all. It's good stuff I tell ya, good stuff. Maybe someday I'll write about my rocky journey in this topic but I couldn't be more happy to be exactly where I am and have Him to thank for it all.